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“Don’t try this at home,” said Steve Pantilat, the director of our palliative care fellowship to the new palliative care fellows.  It’s July, and the new fellows are learning communication skills.  “Communication skills that work well for breaking bad news and family meetings rarely work well at home.”

He’s absolutely right.  I have occasionally attempted to use some communication techniques I learned in palliative care training at home with my wife, with disastrous results.  In my case, I usually try these techniques when I’m trying to get out of trouble for something (like not paying attention).

I created this video, called “take out the trash” for all of the spouses and partners who have endured when we talk like we are running a family meeting at home.  We love you!

For the “communication experts” out there – see if you can spot “Ask-Tell-Ask,” NURSE (Naming-Understanding-Respecting-Supporting-Exploring), and the “teach back” method.

I have to credit the inspiration.  My wife showed me this hilarious video of an orthopedic surgeon talking to an anesthesiologist.

by: Alex Smith

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