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Book Review: The Salami Salesman and His Daughter Falafel

The Salami Salesman and His Daughter Falafel is Dr. Laurie Mallery’s poignant account of the events leading up to her father’s death and what she learned through the process of caring for him (the book's subtitle pretty much says it all - What an older man's death can teach us about how and how not to care for the frail and dying).

An internist/geriatrician and head of Geriatric Medicine Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Dr. Mallery’s role as the informed family member-caregiver is both impeded and enhanced by her medical training. In caring for her 83-year-old father who suffered from a complex interaction of health conditions (i.e. cerebellar strokes, CHF, atrial fibrillation, hemolytic anemia) that contributed to and exacerbated his declining mobility and cognitive impairment, Dr. Mallery undergoes a learning process that informs the reader about pertinent medical and social issues affecting end-of-life care.

The following are salient issues discussed in her narrative:

  1. Role of the physician family member – The fear of her father dying alone in a hospital, as observed in her medical practice, compels Dr. Mallery to ensure that her father would be as comforted as possible toward end-of-life, even if it means becoming the unintended “interfering family member.” Dr. Mallery addresses medical concerns she feels are glossed over by her father’s health care providers, even correcting an internist in his medical evaluation methods. At times it seems difficult for her to draw a distinction between her role as a physician outside of her father’s care and the family member who is overseeing her father’s care. At one point, she muses, “There was my beloved father lying in bed and in my hands were the drugs that could provide comfort, but also indicated that his life was effectively over.”
  2. Family needs clashing with those of the provider – Throughout the narrative, several instances of family needs clashing with those of the provider appear, demonstrating the fundamental differences that exist between providers and the family when it comes to the patient’s care needs. In Dr. Mallery’s case, given her medical background, there is an added underlying power struggle. For instance, after observing her father’s decline in mobility, Dr. Mallery suggests he get a walker, to the dismay of his internist who opposes the suggestion on the grounds that a walker would diminish his ability to function independently. Perhaps the more compelling example is the intubation of her father against the family’s wishes and the DNR preference established in her father’s advanced directive.
  3. Lack of geriatric-focused care for the dying frail elderly – When her father is hospitalized after a fall that results in bleeding in his brain, the physicians are hopeful that he will recover, though Dr. Mallery believes her father, as an elderly individual, would have a poor prognosis compared to younger patients. In addition, she points out that frailty is not commonly recognized as an indicator of functional decline and strongly advocates for its wider recognition by physicians caring for the elderly.
  4. Physicians fail to discuss prognosis when appropriate – A recurring theme throughout the narrative is the lack of evidence-based decision making by the providers when prognosticating the patient. Furthermore, prognosis is not readily discussed, especially in the case of frail elderly patients experiencing functional decline and cognitive impairment. Dr. Mallery states, “Over the course of more than a year of illness, there was never a single discussion about prognosis, death, or quality of life – for my father or the family who was caring for him.” In addition, palliative care for the patient is initially dismissed by the provider when the family requests it. Dr. Mallery suggests, “We need much more attention paid to how we die, using innovative approaches to care for the dying while also assisting families.”
  5. Expensive, unnecessary, and sometimes aggressive medical treatment – When her father is transferred to a subacute rehabilitation unit following his hospitalization, Dr. Mallery is stunned by the myriad interventions that are ordered – physiotherapy, occupational therapy, speech therapy, swallowing evaluation – all of which she views as impractical costs to the system, the family, and the patient, in terms of causing him discomfort and exacerbating his delirium.
Based on her experience providing end-of life care for her father, Dr. Mallery develops guidelines for the assessment of frail older adults, which she calls “collaborative comprehensive geriatric assessment.” Underlying principles of these guidelines include:

  1. Taking a holistic approach to assessing the patient’s health, including health status, mobility, function, cognitive and support systems.
  2. Ensuring accuracy of information regarding patient’s health history, especially for individuals with cognitive impairment (obtaining corroborative accounts from family members is strongly suggested).
  3. Avoiding redundancies in gathering information on the patient, which would require collaborative efforts among members of the health care team.
  4. Developing an appropriate treatment plan for the patient in alignment with hard evidence that could inform the decision making process for both the clinicians and the family.
  5. For providers, recognizing signs of end-of-life, especially frailty as an indicator of poor health in the elderly.
It is important to keep in mind when reading these personal accounts that each situation is unique and individual preferences will dictate one’s behaviors and feelings within the context of health care decision making. In Dr. Mallery’s case, her medical training could be viewed as an advantage in that she was able to effectively seek out appropriate health care resources for her father; on the other hand, her prejudices as a physician could be viewed as a disadvantage in that it was perceived as interfering with her father’s care when she clashed with the providers.

In the case of a frail elderly patient with functional decline and cognitive impairment who cannot competently make decisions for himself/herself, it is always difficult to know what he/she truly wants or needs at any given time. In any case, the important take away message lies in the care principles that Dr. Mallery developed in response to her experiences.

By: Julie N. Thai [GeriPal International Correspondent]

Comments

Dee Wadsworth said…
I just ordered the book on Amazon. Disappointed that there were no reviews at that site.
Julie, please consider posting your review there
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1456718983/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER
Anonymous said…
Having just returned from three weeks with my 80yo father who broke his hip in Feb., I can attest to all of the issues described by Dr. Mallery: I was the demanding nurse family member who constantly clashed with the staff and vigilantly watched over meds(found two errors), therapies (what a joke!), safety, and personal care. While my father has been waiting/wanting to die for years, he was in rehab with a lot of rah,rah therapists who did not understand the concept of palliative rehab and would not tone down their cheerleading efforts with my father. It was quite an "up close and personal" learning experience with our current long term care system. I have forwarded the book review to the Director of Nursing and the Social Worker of his facility. Theresa Koetters UCSF School of Nursing
Anonymous said…
This book is amazing. It tells the poignant story of how to understand the health care system and how a family can give the best care possilbe to someone who is frail and nearing the end of life. Anyone who takes care of an older family member must read this book for inspiration about how to proceed.
Anonymous said…
I read this book and found it helpful, inspiring, and thoughtful. This is a
secret story that describes how to get the best care for your elderly family
member. It made me cry and laugh, but in the end I felt i understood a deep
message.
Anonymous said…
Hi Laurie,

I've been meaning to write to say how much I enjoyed your book. Apart from being eye opening and educational, it was so heart felt and moving. It made me sad. I wish I had had it during the dying process of both my parents in Toronto- my father in an intensive care unit and my mother years later in a horrible hospital. Please keep going with this important work and thanks so much for sharing it with the world!

Warmly,
Liz
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